Sexual facts every man should know. Simple physical and psychological techniques that allow men to fulfill their desire of a more fulfilling sex life.
Physiologically speaking, it is impossible for men to have multiple successive complete orgasms : once ejaculation has occurred, men have to go through a refractory phase. And this refractory phase includes the compulsory loss of their erection. For another complete orgasm to occur, one must therefore go through the full arousal process once again. Each complete orgasm hence achieved is thus an individual event (even if one has 3 during the same day, for instance). Clearly, this is not what we have in mind when we refer to the multiple orgasm concept. From this point of view, this text thus clearly over promises and under delivers.
This does not mean that this text isn’t good nor interesting. One simply must understand that what this popular text calls being multi-orgasmic is in fact edging. Once this is understood, it becomes clear that this text is a good read for all men interested since it correctly discusses and teaches the basics of edging. The book’s heading mentions sexual secrets and this is all hyperbole (it’s not a secret anymore if it’s in a widely available book), but learning to edge will definitely make a man much happier. Download this file to on you iPad as soon as possible… and read it !
Addendum : an Anon has written to tell me that ejaculation is not orgasm.
One of the points that “Multi-orgasmic Man” was making was that orgasm ≠ ejaculation ; that is, you can have an orgasm without triggering the reflex of ejaculation, and thus with no refractory period. What that text calls an “multi-orgasm” is indeed a multi-orgasm, not just edging (assuming the reflex of ejaculation can indeed be separated from orgasm, which some preliminary “testing” suggested possible, but that’s not the point you commented on, and you interchanged “ejaculation” with “orgasm”).
I know perfectly what is orgasm and ejaculation (and you only have to read my erudition posts as a proof) ! I didn’t go into details about the two in this post because I didn’t feel that it would be necessary in the context and I wanted to present an interesting book even though it has limitations. But on to his main point.
He writes that “orgasm ≠ ejaculation”. True, to a point. The orgasm is a neurological event (happens in the brain), while the ejaculation is a physical event (happening in the sexual organs). It is true also that an orgasm can happen without ejaculation : most of us experienced this as teens before our body became ready to ejaculate. Back then, masturbating would result in what it commonly referred to as a dry orgasm. But for adults, complete orgasm and ejaculation go hand in hand (please note the word “complete” : I’ll get to that later).
Both orgasm and ejaculation are triggered by the reaching of a sufficient magnitude of arousal, although not necessarily at the same level. For some men, ejaculation may be triggered before, while for other ejaculation may be triggered after orgasm. The ejaculation trigger is called the point of no-return. Both trigger points, however, are not that far apart and contrary to what Anon writes, both events cannot be experienced individually from the other in a natural context (outside of a lab, that is).
The neurological event of the orgasm is an electrical storm in the brain that is very typical in brain imaging. But of course no one needs a PhD to understand the explosive, immersive and encompassing sensation of this neurological orgasm ! This neurological orgasm, the climax, does not happen without prior notice however : there is a pre-climactic pleasure buildup that, in itself, is both sublime and wonderful. Since these pre-climactic sensations cannot be experienced outside of a sexual context, they can arguably be considered as part of the orgasmic experience as a whole. But these pre-climactic pleasures do not have the storm-like full brain embracing appearance of the climax itself.
Going through an orgasmic experience from the beginning to the climax itself, this is what I call a complete orgasm. And since the climax of the neurological orgasm will be trigged when one reaches an arousal level near the point of no-return spark-off stage of ejaculation, both will end up happening together. In theory, if one trigger was sufficiently far from the other, one could indeed experience one (say, the climax) and stop the process without progressing to the other (say, ejaculation). But this is more or less impossible because :
In other words, even though orgasm (climax) and ejaculation are not the same, they end up happening together.
Edging is learning to experience orgasmic elation to its fullest without triggering the point of no-return that would in turn set off the ejaculation reflex. An experienced edger can go very near the point of no-return without loosing control. Edging allows to maximize the experience and duration of the pre-climactic pleasures, to a point where this pre-climactic pleasure in and by itself can become very intense and satisfying (to a point where the edger can fall into a hypnotic state called gooning). But even if all this edging feels very (and I mean very) good, the electrical storm of the climax will not happen until one reaches the appropriate trigger point. And when he does, he’ll ejaculate too.
So I hold on to my position : saying a man can be multi-orgasmic is an overstatement because a man cannot climax multiple times before ejaculating. However, a man can learn to edge and enjoy very intense and satisfying sexual pleasure for long minutes if not hours. And this deserves to be learned.
Despite this book’s exaggerated promises, it should still be read. Knowing in advance that you’ll never become multi-orgasmic because it is physiologically impossible for males only prevents the reader from being disappointed in themselves. However, learning to better control your arousal and also learning to edge are something all males should attempt :
This post links to all posts discussing the various masturbation techniques for men. The linked page, rather bare as of now, will gain content over the next few weeks.
An illustration of the various male masturbation techniques has been a goal of the blog ever since the beginning, hence my attempt at key-wording each pictures and videos that I blog. Despite or maybe because of this, I have received over the months a great number of request to illustrate or further discuss the various masturbation techniques available. Especially after the technique weekend in mid-may of this year (where I posted a series of gifs illustrating various masturbation methods). In attempting to find a way to respond to these ongoing requests however, I have not been very successful. The main reason being that masturbation vids and pics are never created for this purpose in the first place, so they end up being not very instructional nor explanatory most of the time.
To materialize the project, I came to the conclusion that I had to do the job myself, even though I really cannot be compared to a porn actor. Not having a perfect body, these vids aren’t created to show off but rather to illustrate the various techniques. Of course I’d be happy if a sexy model could perform instead, but this will have to do for now ! Please be indulgent.
I’ve thus created a series of very short videos that I will publish over the coming weeks, each one attempting to illustrate a particular technique. Being created for illustrative purposes, these vids will be somewhat plain. Once again, the goal is not porn but an attempt in helping those interested in broadening their repertoire ! In the accompanying text, I’ll try to give details about the illustrated technique.
If you want to have more details or if you think my comments are not clear enough, do not hesitate to tell me. If you know of other techniques, I’ll be pleased to discuss them with you.