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Good evening! I'm looking for a vibrator of sorts... Well for my cock basically. I have an anal plug which I'm very happy with. I feel it gives me great orgasms, but I'm looking for something that will intensify the sensation the front area. I mean something that will make my balls and cock just tingly and feel amazing. Do you have any toys/brand suggestions? Or a link of your favorites?

For vibrators, the classic one is the Magic Wand (site), although it may be too powerful : test it first in a store before buying it. You can see a Magic Wand clone being used here. A Magic Wand just behind the balls, on the external p-spot is quite an experience too ! There are after-market extensions to the Magic Wand, such as the sleeve used here.

For a less intense vibration, I like the pill-shaped bullet vibrators such as the one used here. Their small size and relative light weight allows them to be attached against the underside of the cock head (on the frenulum) for a slow rising orgasm that is incredibly relieving when it finally happens (let the bullet do all the work and avoid touching your penis along the way even if you are aching to).

Of course, there’s also the Cobra Libre. I’ve never tried it myself, but you can see 2 demos here and here. You can also see an interesting albeit non sexy review here (even if you don’t speak russian) where you can see the device clearly. 

Obviously, any vibrators sold for clitoral stimulation will also do and they are easy to find. What is interesting is that there is a wide variety available (since vibrators have been claimed as legitimate sex-toys by women since the early 70’s), so you have a wide choice : pick one that strikes your fancy. (As an aside, it is fascinating that women earned quickly the right to use sex toys but males continued to be denied that liberty using the argument that it was an objectification of the female body ! If this is true, I wonder what dildos are supposed to be…)

The most interesting areas to expose to vibration are :

  • Immediately behind the balls, on the perineum : this sends a humming along the shaft starting from the shaft’s root, as well as taking care of the external (secondary) p-spot.
  • In the area of the frenulum (where the foreskin is/was attached)
  • On the cock head’s tip

Of course it is not forbidden to explore and try your vibrator everywhere else !

Vibrators are safe in general and shouldn’t do any harm, except on the balls if the vibration is very strong.

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This may be irrelevant to masturbation, but it's related to your expertise in male anatomy and hormones. Are fatty man's chest (a.k.a. manboobs) are the same as the chest of a man suffering from gynecomastia? Is the fat tissue in fat chest the same as breast tissue? I feel insecure about my manboobs and I need some clarification. Thanks!
Anonymous

No and yes. Let’s see why.

Fat represents the accumulation of calories as a result of eating more than required for one’s daily living needs. When one eats too much, the unused calories are stored in fat because we (as a species) have a thrifty metabolism (not every animals on Earth are as thrifty) : what isn’t used for our daily living is stored for later use. If that later use never happens, but one continues to over eat, then one can accumulate an impressive amount of fat. The sad part is that our metabolic thriftiness is apparently never-ending : our body is not programmed to stop accumulating when we have “enough energy” set aside. To make matter worse for some, men and women of certain descent (notably Amerindians and South Americans) have an even thriftier metabolism, which translates in our modern world as an even more marked tendency to gain weight.

Women tend to gain weight more easily then men because of estrogens. In a world of famines, this was a good thing because it allowed the mother to potentially survive longer to feed their progeny. In areas where abundance of food is the norm, this results in a tendency for women to gain weight easily.

Men have testosterone : a pro-metabolic hormone. Testosterone increases muscle mass, heart rate and energy expenditure over all. This explains why men tend to eat a lot and not gain that much weight, especially in their younger years. As they get older, however, testosterone levels tend to drop slightly over time : a male in his early 20s will burn 200 calories more for his daily routine than a man in his early 40s doing the same things. Hence the “beer belly” of men in their forties : they kept the same eating habits even though they did not need as much… and fat accumulated over time.

For men, this accumulated fat has another unexpected consequence : fat tissues contain an aromatase enzyme that converts testosterone into estrogen. This conversion rate gets more important as fat is accumulated, to a point where some fat men will have as much estrogen in their blood as women of the same age ! This high level of estrogen as a result of accumulated body fat will have many consequences :

  • loosing weight will become much harder because estrogen favours body fat as we have seen above
  • energy levels will go down as the testosterone level drops, the resulting apathy will make losing weight harder also
  • sex drive will drop as testosterone level drops too
  • body hair will become thiner
  • gynecomastia (growing of breasts) may happen. Male breasts will never become very big, but they can grow to the size of an early teen girl’s size. One has to remember that we have everything in our bodies to be both male and female, but our hormones favoured certain organs instead of others (nutshell explanation). So when the breasts of a male are exposed to higher lever of estrogen, they may develop enough to be perceptible.

This being said, even in women, breasts are mainly made of fat. This particular area of the body is used very early to store excess energy (in other words : fat). So fat men will have rounder, bigger breasts because of fat accumulation much earlier than because of gynecomastia.

So, your question were :

a) Is a fatty man’s chest the same as the chest of a man suffering from gynecomastia ?

And the answer is

  • mostly no as breast are used very early as fat stores, so fat men will have big breasts as a matter of course because of them being fat in the first place
  • and a little bit of yes, considering that the accumulation of fat will flip the balance in favour of estrogen at some point, leading to development of breast tissue.

b) Is the fat tissue in fat chests the same as breast tissue?

Yes, because a man’s breast is just an underdeveloped female breast.

While gynecomastia cannot be reversed, losing weight will lower estrogen level leading to an increased level of energy, sex drive, and general feeling of well being… as well as a disappearance of 99 % of man-boobs’ size.

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Is there a way to keep your ass from being really loose after sex? Or is there a way to tighten it again if you are loose?
Anonymous

Are you asking me this question theoretically, or as an after-the-fact observation ? In theory, anal sex should not cause anal loosening. As I wrote earlier :

Everyone should remember that a stool is bigger than most tools. Thus, you won’t become incontinent after you’ve had anal sex. Note that some other sexual practice or habits can however harm the anal sphincter : fisting (inserting a whole fist inside the anus) or using really large dildos, for instance. The anus can stretch quite a lot, but like everything else, it has its limits. Anal sex, in and by itself, is not a cause of prolapse.

I you have indeed an anal loosening problem, either you are a small person, or I should be frightened by your partner… or you had anal sex too early in your life (which is sad).

Considering it is now something you are now stuck with, then the best thing to do is to muscle up you anal region. Read these posts, and exercise your levator ani muscles.

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The multi-orgasmic man
Sexual facts every man should know. Simple physical and psychological techniques that allow men to fulfill their desire of a more fulfilling sex life.

Physiologically speaking, it is impossible for men to have multiple successive complete orgasms : once ejaculation has occurred, men have to go through a refractory phase. And this refractory phase includes the compulsory loss of their erection. For another complete orgasm to occur, one must therefore go through the full arousal process once again. Each complete orgasm hence achieved is thus an individual event (even if one has 3 during the same day, for instance). Clearly, this is not what we have in mind when we refer to the multiple orgasm concept. From this point of view, this text thus clearly over promises and under delivers.

This does not mean that this text isn’t good nor interesting. One simply must understand that what this popular text calls being multi-orgasmic is in fact edging. Once this is understood, it becomes clear that this text is a good read for all men interested since it correctly discusses and teaches the basics of edging. The book’s heading mentions sexual secrets and this is all hyperbole (it’s not a secret anymore if it’s in a widely available book), but learning to edge will definitely make a man much happier. Download this file to on you iPad as soon as possible… and read it !

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Addendum : an Anon has written to tell me that ejaculation is not orgasm.

One of the points that “Multi-orgasmic Man” was making was that orgasm ≠ ejaculation ; that is, you can have an orgasm without triggering the reflex of ejaculation, and thus with no refractory period. What that text calls an “multi-orgasm” is indeed a multi-orgasm, not just edging (assuming the reflex of ejaculation can indeed be separated from orgasm, which some preliminary “testing” suggested possible, but that’s not the point you commented on, and you interchanged “ejaculation” with “orgasm”).

I know perfectly what is orgasm and ejaculation (and you only have to read my erudition posts as a proof) ! I didn’t go into details about the two in this post because I didn’t feel that it would be necessary in the context and I wanted to present an interesting book even though it has limitations. But on to his main point.

He writes that “orgasm ≠ ejaculation”. True, to a point. The orgasm is a neurological event (happens in the brain), while the ejaculation is a physical event (happening in the sexual organs). It is true also that an orgasm can happen without ejaculation : most of us experienced this as teens before our body became ready to ejaculate. Back then, masturbating would result in what it commonly referred to as a dry orgasm. But for adults, complete orgasm and ejaculation go hand in hand (please note the word “complete” : I’ll get to that later).

Both orgasm and ejaculation are triggered by the reaching of a sufficient magnitude of arousal, although not necessarily at the same level. For some men, ejaculation may be triggered before, while for other ejaculation may be triggered after orgasm. The ejaculation trigger is called the point of no-return. Both trigger points, however, are not that far apart and contrary to what Anon writes, both events cannot be experienced individually from the other in a natural context (outside of a lab, that is).

The neurological event of the orgasm is an electrical storm in the brain that is very typical in brain imaging. But of course no one needs a PhD to understand the explosive, immersive and encompassing sensation of this neurological orgasm ! This neurological orgasm, the climax, does not happen without prior notice however : there is a pre-climactic pleasure buildup that, in itself, is both sublime and wonderful. Since these pre-climactic sensations cannot be experienced outside of a sexual context, they can arguably be considered as part of the orgasmic experience as a whole. But these pre-climactic pleasures do not have the storm-like full brain embracing appearance of the climax itself.

Going through an orgasmic experience from the beginning to the climax itself, this is what I call a complete orgasm. And since the climax of the neurological orgasm will be trigged when one reaches an arousal level near the point of no-return spark-off stage of ejaculation, both will end up happening together. In theory, if one trigger was sufficiently far from the other, one could indeed experience one (say, the climax) and stop the process without progressing to the other (say, ejaculation). But this is more or less impossible because :

  1. both trigger points happen roughly at the same arousal point
  2. the orgasmic climax is characterized by a loss of willpower as parts of the brain are shut off, stunned by the electric storm making it impossible to willfully decide what you do next. 

In other words, even though orgasm (climax) and ejaculation are not the same, they end up happening together.

Edging is learning to experience orgasmic elation to its fullest without triggering the point of no-return that would in turn set off the ejaculation reflex. An experienced edger can go very near the point of no-return without loosing control. Edging allows to maximize the experience and duration of the pre-climactic pleasures, to a point where this pre-climactic pleasure in and by itself can become very intense and satisfying (to a point where the edger can fall into a hypnotic state called gooning). But even if all this edging feels very (and I mean very) good, the electrical storm of the climax will not happen until one reaches the appropriate trigger point. And when he does, he’ll ejaculate too.

So I hold on to my position : saying a man can be multi-orgasmic is an overstatement because a man cannot climax multiple times before ejaculating. However, a man can learn to edge and enjoy very intense and satisfying sexual pleasure for long minutes if not hours. And this deserves to be learned.

Despite this book’s exaggerated promises, it should still be read. Knowing in advance that you’ll never become multi-orgasmic because it is physiologically impossible for males only prevents the reader from being disappointed in themselves. However, learning to better control your arousal and also learning to edge are something all males should attempt :

  • because it results in enhanced satisfaction overall
  • because it allows to increase the quality of sex with a partner
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which fleshlight do you think is the best? I have a fleshjack ice which is great but some of them look like they might be better. I am thinking I want the tightest with no channels that open up and break the grip. your thoughts?
Anonymous

It’s hard to tell. I tried the following textures :

  • Original : I like it, for those days I feel having a long sensuous fuck.
  • Wonder Wave : I like it, for those days I want to be coerced to cum.
  • Super Ribbed : I hate it because the ribbing is so dense that my cock head feels numbed down after a while.
  • Speed Bump : I don’t like it because I cum too fast in it, even though I really am far from being a premature ejaculator. While I understand that one may want to cum quickly once in a while, I still want to have fun in the process !
  • Super Tight (and the now unavailable Ultra Tight): I hate them because they were so tight they were painful.
  • Vortex : I hate it, as it has nothing special compared to the Wonder Wave. I was really angry at the company after buying this one. It’s the last texture I bought from them.
  • I didn’t try the other textures currently sold, including the current Ice texture (the ice model used to be sold with the texture of you choice, just like the pink one.)

My preferred textures are thus the Original and the Wonder Wave.

Your preferences, however, maybe different from mine.

  • What texture you prefer will be influenced by the thickness of your dick : while I’m not frighteningly thick, I’ve been told more than once that I have a “very adequate” diameter and this may be why the Super Tight and the Ultra Tight were never for me. Then again, for no specific reason, some like it tight and some don’t !
  • Same for the stimulation degree offered by the Super Ribbed and theSpeed Bump. Being uncut, my cock head remained protected and thus is more sensitive to the touch. If you are cut, you may need stronger stimulation.

Of course, since you already have the shell, you can buy only the sleeve from their main site, and this will not be as expensive (although you still get to pay for shipping). You can also buy 3 inserts for the price of 2 (which is probably the best deal, but then you have to store them all somewhere !)

Or, for a totally different feeling and a similar price to a new Fleshlight, you could try a Flip Hole where the texture is always in contact with your cock.

Finally, I’ve read a lot of positive comments too about the Meiki, although I never tried them. They apparently have a very natural feel although they are even harder to clean than the Fleshlights.

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What do you think about humping? have you ever done it?
Anonymous

Humping is the act of fucking against a surface, in order to rub the cock against this surface. What is interesting about humping is that it allows to experiment the fucking motion. What isn’t so interesting is that it can be very irritating for the penis skin, and it may also require much more work to finally obtain an intense sexual pleasure, let alone an orgasm. Dry humping (without lubrication) may not be a good habit because it tends to desensitize the cock head (in particular) over time.

I did hump for a few weeks when I was younger, as I discovered sexual pleasure, before I discovered that I could also caress my cock instead of humping (see here). But when I did this, I was at the very beginning of puberty and my penis was still undeveloped : having a small head that still hadn’t become as sensitive, I could tolerate this humping. Or at least I could for a few weeks !

I became nearly impossible for me to dry hump over time, as I am uncut. My cock head (being usually protected from rubbing) is very sensitive and it would hurt a lot (and that is putting it mildly) ! I have however humped using a lubed plastic bag in my teens. A lubed plastic bag offered a non-irritating surrounding for my cock as I humped in my bed. Nowadays, I use my Tenga or my Fleshlight to “hump”… when I’m not “humping” my boyfriend (so to speak) of course !

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What is the most common position males masturbate in?
Anonymous

I never seen any studies on this, but based on my own experience and what I’ve seen, I’d say (in the following order) :

  1. lying on their back (in bed, most likely)
  2. sitting (in front of the computer, or in a comfy chair)
  3. standing (in the shower, for instance)
  4. kneeling (on the bed, or beside some furniture to fuck some toy)
  5. lying downwards (for humping)

But this is a non-exhaustive list, of course.

Personally, I’m usually using position 1 or 2 ! But I’ve masturbated in many positions !

Do others have different opinions ?

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I don't know why this happens to me but everytime I let my best friend masturbate me, it's ten times more intense and arousing that stroking myself. The orgasms are just mind blowing and I always shoot a bigger load. But it's the feeling that is something else. I think he feels the same. Any idea why this happens? Thanks.
Anonymous

What you experience is totally normal and that is because of the emotions involved.

Whatever the means to get aroused, the mechanicals of a man remain the same. In other words, the physical requirements to reach a sufficient arousal to trigger the ejaculation reflex, as well as the ejaculation process in itself are all the same.

The difference between an orgasm, a good orgasm and a great orgasm are between your ears, in your emotions, in your (gasp) feelings.

When you have sex with your friend (and letting your friend masturbate you is a perfectly genuine kind of sex), you and your friend bond emotionally.

  • The fact that you are together means that he’s attracted to you and the fact of being someone’s soft spot makes you feel good inside. You feel beautiful. You feel desired. You are happy.
  • The fact that you are together means that you like this guy. You find him attractive. He’s got the physical and mental traits you like in a man. Not only you find him attractive, but he’s in bed with you. All nude ! Offered ! You can contemplate him without second thoughts. You feel your are given a great gift. You feel you’ve won something. Your heart is pounding with pride and joy. You are happy.
  • Maybe you had to plan with great care to finally be close together. If this is the case, you have the satisfaction of finally getting what you desire. Maybe it happens after a few hours of talking or playing together. If this is the case you have all this pent up desire. Maybe, this time, it happened unexpectedly, so you are pleasantly surprised as life just did you a great favour. In all cases, it makes you happy. 
  • You said yourself : he’s your best friend. He knows you. He knows what you like. He knows what turns you on. He knows what to tell you to make you go crazy. He knows how to make you feel happy !
  • It’s not the fist time he masturbates you, he’s seen your reactions before. He knows where to kiss you. He knows where to lick you. He knows what kind of strokes brings you to seventh heaven. He knows how to make you feel happy !
  • When he’s masturbating you, when you are having sex with him, you are not the one in control : he’s the one supervising your pleasure. You have no choice but to experience your emotions. What you can do is to enjoy the sight of your friend. Feel how thrilled he is to hold you. Appreciate his skill. You may even have to cope with a prolonged exposure to sexual pleasure compared to your usual masturbations. But a thing’s certain : you are restricted to enjoyment as you are relieved of the need to create and maintain your arousal. You can live your emotions to the fullest. You can be happy.
  • And finally, the fact that he’s masturbating you relieves you of a feeling of guilt you might still have (even though you shouldn’t) when you are jerking off. Freeing you of the negative emotions that tarnish your experience when you are alone. When he masturbates you, maybe you finally feel that you are allowed to be happy.

Being more emotionally aroused is going to stimulate your glands more, and hence you are more likely to produce more semen. Hence your bigger load. And that big load sure makes you proud… and happy !

What do you think ?

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Are poppers safe?
Anonymous

Poppers describe a family of chemical products (alkylated nitrites) initially developed for medical purposes, although they are not commonly used nowadays in medicine (except for cyanide poisoning) because of their toxicity and their dangerousness (they can explode easily). Alkylated nitrites were widely used, in particular to treat angina (heart pain caused by lack of oxygen).

Amyl nitrite, butyl nitrite and isobutyl nitrite are still considered pharmaceutical products in many legal systems of the world and as such they are considered limited distribution products that require medical supervision. To walk around this, poppers are often sold under the pretence of being leather cleaners or liquid incense. But nobody use them for these purported usages : their real commercial purpose is to get a “high” and a hard-on.

Usage

Poppers are used recreationally for the following reasons :

  • Increased erection state (a really hard erection) : as they are a source of nitrogen monoxide (NO)
  • Euphoria and dizziness : because they lower the oxygen level in the blood, causing brain dysfunction perceived as such ; and because they cause vasodilation (smooth muscle relaxation) increasing the blood flow to the brain
  • Heightened sensuality (exact cause ?)
  • Disinhibition (exact cause ?)

The desired effect of poppers last for about 2 to 5 minutes, after which time a user will tend to take another whiff. After a popper session, the user will be left with a headache (a side effect of the brain arteries dilation) — like any nitrates will do, including nitroglycerin used to control angina nowadays. Many people will not be able to take poppers because of the resulting headache.

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Potential side effects

The fact that alkyl nitrite was used to treat angina helps to understand how the use of poppers can be dangerous for anyone having a vascular-based health problem, such as :

  • Recent head trauma (increasing the risk of intracranial bleeding)
  • Intracranial bleeding (if one’s already bled/stroked, he’s at higher risk of bleeding again)
  • Migraines (not to be confused with the usual headaches, migraines are specific headaches where there is dilation of blood vessels in the head. And since poppers also cause vasodilation…) 
  • Heart diseases (angina, infarcts/heart strokes : hypotension require the heart to beat faster to compensate, increasing the heart’s oxygen need and thus exposing to a heart attack if so predisposed)
  • Sickle-cell anaemia in particular but any anaemias (because alkyl nitrite bind to the haemoglobin and cause methaemoglobinemia, preventing the transport of oxygen by the blood if used repeatedly. Sickle-cell anemia or drepanocytosis is a potentially deadly disease that can go undetected until one is exposed to a low-oxygen situation and is particularly prevalent in people of Sub-Saharan African descent.)

 or taking medications in the following categories :

  • Erectile dysfunction (Viagra, Cialis, Levitra… For two reasons : 1- Both increase the level of NO in the blood, thus have an additive effect leading to a risk of priapism (a penis stuck erect, which may seem cool initially but is a true medical emergency) 2- Already having a vasodilator effect, thus an additive effect leading to hypotension which may cause loss of consciousness, falls and, in more severe cases, heart attacks or cerebral strokes by reduced blood pressure) 
  • High blood pressure (too many to mention. May counteract some, leading to a hypertensive crisis, hence a cerebral stroke. Will usually have an additive effect, leading to hypotension which may cause loss of consciousness, falls and, in more severe cases, heart attacks or cerebral strokes by reduced blood pressure)
  • Migraine (triptan family : opposing effect ; ergotamine : hypertensive crisis)
  • Glaucoma (increased eye pressure caused by dysfunctional drainage of the eye for various reasons, this high pressure will be increased when exposed to nitrates, leading to progressive destruction of the retina and, eventually, blindness)
  • Aspirin (in high doses apparently… but I haven’t found any logical explanation. Methaemoglobinemia ? A pharmaceutical chemist to the rescue, please !)
  • Some street/illegal drugs (in particular : cocaine, LSD, GHB… because these drugs increase both blood flow and heart rate. If you add the vasodilating effect of alkyl nitrite, you may have the perfect recipe for a heart attack.)

As you can see, products containing alkyl nitrite could pose serious risks, including death, depending on the amount used, how frequently they are used and how long they are used for, especially if the person taking poppers already has health problems or is already taking other medications.

To sum things up, the side effects of poppers include :

  • potentially life-threatening low blood pressure
  • rapid or irregular heart rhythm
  • a decrease in the blood’s ability to carry oxygen

Other side effects include difficulty breathing, muscle weakness, loss of consciousness, respiratory depression, and damage to the liver or kidney in higher doses.

Discussion

The problem with poppers is that they are difficult do dose : one never really know how much will be inhaled. Depending on the temperature of the product and depending on the additives used, more or less alkyl nitrates can be released per inhalation. Because of this, users can accidentally overdose. While it is generally understood that poppers are to be inhaled only, it must be known that swallowing these products can lead to serious medical complications and may be fatal. Users of inhaled alkyl nitrite have also suffered burns as the vapour is highly flammable : don’t smoke if you intend to pop !

Poppers available today are much weaker than those available 10 or 20 years ago, in the hope of avoiding the overdose risk and the side effects such an overdose would cause. In many countries, butyl nitrite and isobutyl nitrite derivatives are no longer available, only alkyl nitrite, once again because of health risks. Poppers, however, are generally made in uncontrolled kitchen factories or back stores, with little quality control if any. So if the main ingredient is known (alkyl nitrite) we can’t say anything about the other ingredients (fillers and additives) used by the various brands of poppers sold.

I know that some users are going to disagree and tell me that they never had any problems. To this, my answer can only be : good for you. Because some users never had any problem (yet) doesn’t mean that there are no risk and that poppers are benign. If you are in relatively good health, then your body will be able to adapt and you could have an enjoyable experience. However, over the years, this ability will lessen, especially if you have other blood-vessel damaging diseases such as hypertension, diabetes, smoking, high cholesterol or if you are overweight. Poppers are not candies !

This being said, when compared to other legally or illegally available toxins, poppers pose little potential harm to individuals or to society when compared to other recreational drugs including alcohol and tobacco. Moreover, poppers are not addictive. So there is no need to demonize them either. So if you don’t have any of the health problems mentioned, you may try them. Like anything else in life, just don’t go overboard.

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What happends if Im masturbaring but I don't shoot my load? Sometimes I press the base of my penis at the back of my balls to stop the shooting, I can feel the orgasm but just don't cum, is there any damage to my cock or health problem doing this? Where does the cum go if I don't shot?

The posterior urethra is the assembly room where the various glands contributing to the semen’s content empty themselves and get mixed together as arousal increases, thereby creating the whitish semi-gelatinous liquid known as semen. When the body readies itself for ejaculation, the bulbocavernosus muscles contract, increasing the pressure in this chamber (you can feel this if you keep your fingers on the perineum as you masturbate). When the chamber is sufficiently pressurized, the sphincter between this posterior urethra and the penile urethra opens, while the bulbocavernosus muscles contract rhythmically : you are ejaculating !

As you noticed, as the point of no-return is reached but before the ejaculation itself begins, pressing firmly on the perineum immediately behind the scrotal sac will pinch the base of the penile urethra, manually squeezing the sphincter and preventing its opening. This, in turns blocks the expulsion of semen. Pressure should be maintained for as long as you experience orgasmic contractions, at least, if not a little longer to allow the pressure inside the posterior urethra to subside.

I understand you know all this since this is what you are doing already, but this intro was to put others to speed if they needed to be. So, now on to your questions : 

a) Is there any damage to my cock or health problem doing this ?

Semen in itself is non toxic : what hasn’t been expelled during ejaculation will be recycled and reused or washed out with urine. Metabolically, there are no health problem to be developed from not ejaculating. In other words, you won’t get diabetes, hypertension, cholesterol or liver problems because of this.

This perineal push technique is not anatomically healthy however : it should be considered as a last resort method when you feel you’ve lost control while edging. It should not be your main method to prevent ejaculation : instead, you should learn to better identify your point of no-return and stop masturbating (or at least slow down) to allow your arousal to wane a little.

Aside from the fact that you may experience some pain in the testicles and around the anus, damage may be caused with frequent use of this technique over time to the ejaculation-related parts of body including the ejaculatory ducts and vas deferens as a result of over pressurization. Using this method repeatedly will also lead to retrograde ejaculations as the urethral sphincter muscle will weaken over time as a result of being exposed to higher pressure than what it was designed for. As for your penis, since it is after the sphincter, it cannot be affected by this. Let me insist on the fact that using this method once in a while will never be a problem. The problem is using it too often.

Retrograde ejaculation may not appear to be a huge problem initially : why should you bother if your semen goes into your bladder ? As I said earlier, semen is non toxic, so your bladder won’t suffer from this. What’s annoying with retrograde ejaculation is that when time comes for you to ejaculate for real, your cumshot will be much smaller as a proportion of your payload will be simultaneously ejaculated into your bladder. This may lead to fertility problem… as well as impact on the quality of the show !

Note however, that all this is true only when you press the base of your penis behind your balls to stop the shooting. I you instead choose to simply stop to masturbate altogether and not ejaculate at all, then there will be no over pressurization (as this happens because you willfully prevent the opening of the sphincter). If you simply stop masturbating, then whatever semen was prepared will simply sit there, in the posterior urethra. And as I said earlier, semen is non toxic and non dangerous in itself, so nothing bad is to be expected… except maybe that you may feel cranky and frustrated !

b) Where does the cum go if I don’t shoot ?

You probably got it by now : semen is non toxic ! What hasn’t been expelled by ejaculation will be recycled and reused or washed out with urine.

You will notice, the first time you pee after you’ve ejaculated (or not), that your urine is foamier. If you haven’t ejaculated at all, it may also be a bit cloudy also : that’s the unused semen being washed out. The foaminess of urine is caused by the high protein content… in this case from the semen.

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what does that little ring that some guys put around their balls do?
Anonymous

These rings are either called scrotal rings or ball stretchers.

  • Scrotal rings, in their simplest forms, narrow the diameter of the scrotum, making the ascension of the testicle impossible. Since ball raising is part of the ejaculation process, these rings can help delay ejaculation in part. For some men who’s inguinal canal are too large (allowing the balls to raise too high into the body and thus cause pain), scrotal rings can prevent some post orgasmic pain. 
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  • The purpose of ball stretchers is to stretch the scrotum so that the balls will hang lower over time. While I’d have a hard time considering this a safe practice, especially if one is planning on having kids one day, I can reckon that this progressive stretching technique has been used in many cultures around the world (stretching necks, ears and lower lips, for instance). The idea is to start with a single ring, and increase the stack of ring as time goes by and as the scrotum stretches.
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  • Finally, cock rings. They are the most common type of ring. Since they impede on the rising of the testicles, they also have the same effect as the scrotal rings to help delay ejaculation in part. Cock rings are also useful for men with erectile dysfunction or those who tend to loose their erection too quickly, as a correctly sized ring will press on the veins of the penis and help maintain the erection. Cock rings are also worn when the penis is flaccid, under clothing, as they bring the whole package forward, and thus create a flattering bulge in pants.
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All type of rings, especially metal ones, are appreciated for their weight. Indeed, the weight increases the man’s perception of his erection, allowing him to feel more erect, harder. (Although cock rings can truly help on that matter too.) 

Metal rings must be inserted while the penis is flaccid and the scrotum, soft, because one ball must be slid after the other in the ring. For cock rings, the soft penis must be inserted first, then the balls, one after the other. Same for rubber rings, generally. As for leather rings, they usually hold closed with a snap.

These rings should not be too narrow because there is a clear risk of strangulation. Leather rings are usually considered safer because they can easily be removed (unsnapped). In terms of safety, cock rings are clearly the safest with the lowest risk of long term side effects, although even those can be dangerous. If you want to experiment, I strongly recommend trying leather straps first.

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How can I get more feeling from masturbating. I am cut. I have to use lube sometimes, but I still don't feel much stimulation.
Anonymous

First, you are right in saying that you may not get a lot of feeling from your penis as a result of circumcision. This fact was also shown by Sorrels et al in the British Journal of Urology (italics mine) :

In conclusion, circumcision removes the most sensitive parts of the penis and decreases the fine-touch pressure sensitivity of glans penis. The most sensitive regions in the uncircumcised penis are those parts ablated by circumcision. When compared to the most sensitive area of the circumcised penis, several locations on the uncircumcised penis (the rim of the preputial orifice, dorsal and ventral, the frenulum near the ridged band, and the frenulum at the muco-cutaneous junction) that are missing from the circumcised penis were significantly more sensitive.
Here are the same results in a graphical format :
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Hence some people finally starting to wonder if circumcision of healthy boys should be considered a criminal assault.

This fact is not going to help you as of today, however considering that you are not going to recover your foreskin anytime soon. So what can you do ?

As you can see in the graph above, even in the zones that should not be affected by circumcision (the glans and a good part of the inner foreskin), a lessening of the sensitivity was demonstrated. This is caused by the continuous exposure of these body parts to rubbing by the clothes. This continuous rubbing caused the glans and the inner foreskin zones to thicken their skins to protect yourself from pain and discomfort. You can prevent or partly reverse this skin thickening by wearing under-wears made of soft, silky material offering a good support to prevent your shaft from moving around too much and thus rub all day. The worst under-wears for you are thus loose-fitting cotton boxer shorts.

But this is not the only source of rubbing. Another important cause is obviously dry masturbation. You say yourself that you are not using lube all the time. Well, from now on, you will ! This is important or you will by causing irritation and chaffing leading to even more skin thickening and lessening of your penis’ sensitivity. “Well, you say, my penis doesn’t hurt when I jerk off dry !” Yes, very likely true (because your skin has become tougher), but that doesn’t mean that your activity isn’t promoting skin thickening. Try masturbating an uncut man the way you masturbate yourself, and you are more likely to get a punch in the face than you are likely to get semen !

Finally, some masturbation techniques are worst than others. I have seen cut men masturbate using a left-right motion over their cock-head instead of a to-and-fro motion along their shaft. This technique is very aggressive and desensitizing. It should thus be avoided.

Fine, now. All this is not likely to give you more feeling in the short term. As it is you are more likely to get even less from masturbation in the short term if you apply these recommendations. (Yay !) However, if you do and over time, your cock’s sensitivity will greatly improve and so will your satisfaction.

The good news is that there is a way to help you in the short term and this method will also help you recover sensitivity in the medium term : masturbation sleeves. Yes, sex toys ! Masturbation sleeves, especially the lesser ribbed one, have been shown to help men recover a lot of their penile sensitivity after only a few weeks of use during masturbation. For this rehabilitation, the best sleeve is clearly the original Fleshlight (with no internal pattern at all ; store). Then again, depending on your current sensitivity, it might prove to be a bore initially. In this case, I’d recommend starting with the White Tenga Flip-Hole (store), going on to the original Fleshlight as your sensitivity increases. Of course, you’ll also need some lube (I personally like Gun Oil, but to each his own).

Obviously, this change in your masturbation habits means that it will likely take longer to reach orgasm, maybe even a lot longer depending on where you start. But you should see improvement over time. Be persistent !

Keep me posted or your progress.

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Masturbation techniques

This post links to all posts discussing the various masturbation techniques for men. The linked page, rather bare as of now, will gain content over the next few weeks.

An illustration of the various male masturbation techniques has been a goal of the blog ever since the beginning, hence my attempt at key-wording each pictures and videos that I blog. Despite or maybe because of this, I have received over the months a great number of request to illustrate or further discuss the various masturbation techniques available. Especially after the technique weekend in mid-may of this year (where I posted a series of gifs illustrating various masturbation methods). In attempting to find a way to respond to these ongoing requests however, I have not been very successful. The main reason being that masturbation vids and pics are never created for this purpose in the first place, so they end up being not very instructional nor explanatory most of the time.

To materialize the project, I came to the conclusion that I had to do the job myself, even though I really cannot be compared to a porn actor. Not having a perfect body, these vids aren’t created to show off but rather to illustrate the various techniques. Of course I’d be happy if a sexy model could perform instead, but this will have to do for now ! Please be indulgent.

I’ve thus created a series of very short videos that I will publish over the coming weeks, each one attempting to illustrate a particular technique. Being created for illustrative purposes, these vids will be somewhat plain. Once again, the goal is not porn but an attempt in helping those interested in broadening their repertoire ! In the accompanying text, I’ll try to give details about the illustrated technique.

If you want to have more details or if you think my comments are not clear enough, do not hesitate to tell me. If you know of other techniques, I’ll be pleased to discuss them with you. 

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What is the point of no return? And how can I reach it?
Anonymous

Ejaculation is a complex cascade of event that, once set in motion, will complete no matter what, each step triggering the next one and completely out of the will’s control. Ejaculation is thus a reflex, just like the knee jerk, although a much more complex and refined one.

Every reflex requires a specific trigger. For the knee-jerk, this trigger is a thump immediately under the knee-cap. For ejaculation, the trigger point is a specific level of arousal. This particular level of arousal required to trigger the ejaculation reflex is called the point of no-return.

In other words, the point of no-return is the moment when a guy turns into a helpless cum shooting machine. And you’ve obviously reached this point of no-return about 4 seconds before each and every time you’ve had an orgasm ever since your first one.

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The good news is that this trigger point is always more or less the same. An experienced man will learn to recognize when he gets close to his point of no-return, and this will be useful in many ways :

  • First and foremost, this knowledge will allow him to have better control on his orgasm. He will be able to decide when he cums instead of being under the control of his biology and the stimulation he’s exposed to.
  • Second, this knowledge will allow him to extend and increase the experience of sexual pleasure by modulating the amount of stimulation to his penis.
  • Third, this knowledge will allow him to engage in a playful game with this trigger point, repeatedly allowing himself to get close the point of no-return without allowing himself to go beyond this point. This is called edging, a very pleasurable practice that may evolve to an experience of gooning. (More on edging and gooning)

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I usually bottom but I've been interested in topping. I really want to top, but when the hole is too tight my dick just turns floppy because it feels like it's hitting a wall. Also, it kinda disturbs me when I see the bottom's face shows pain; or when he puts his hand onto my pubic area to 'resist' my penis jousting in. Do you have any suggestions on how to stay hard??
Anonymous

Being a bottom is not for everyone. Likewise, being a top isn’t for everyone either. maybe it’s your case ?

This being said, if you hit a wall and if your partner’s face shows pain, then you are simply not preparing your partner’s anus sufficiently. Maybe you, as a bottom, don’t require or need much preparation and thus never thought you needed to offer much ? Maybe you’ve got a bigger dick that most of your tops ? I don’t know. But hitting a wall and expressions of pain are definitely signs of inadequate preparation however you look at the situation.

The fact that you loose your erection in this situation is reassuring : you do not wish to rape your partner. You wish to give them as much pleasure as you want to have. And this is good.

The solution for you to stay hard is not taking Viagra nor is it to become cold-hearted. The solution is to take your time to lovingly prepare the anus of your partner for your dick. See my previous reply for guidance.

And remember to always use a generous amount of lube !

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